Why people fail in relationships
Some people want to invest in a relationship only to fulfil their own goals. Then, relationships become just business transactions.
Here are some invisible scripts that they keep saying to themselves.
“If you don’t listen to me, you are not appropriate for me.”
“If you can’t understand me, you are not appropriate for me.”
“If you can’t help solve my problems, you are of no use to me.”
“If you can’t satisfy my psychological and physical needs, why should I be with you?”
These are also the kind of people looking for a reason to get motivated and so, they rely on the other person to double-check their decision. I have been such a person.
That’s because they fear taking a decision themselves.
That’s because they fear failure. Asking other people will give them courage because they can’t find it within themselves.
But the courage is always there, veiled in some corner of the mind.
Such people fail in relationships.
Relationship is not just about you, it is also about the other person. In fact, it is more about the other person. Nothing is ‘just enough’ here. You cannot keep counting your deeds.
The strongest relationship is not bound by time or needs.
The more you empathize, share and care about each other, the stronger the bond becomes. That’s the only way a relationship can exist between two entities. Stop saying ‘I, I, I’ and say ‘You, You, You’ if you really care. If one side starts giving not more than ‘just enough’, the relationship from the other side starts crumbling. The other side might give you wounds someday, but at least you did what you were meant to do.
